CODEPENDENCY INVENTORY

Codependency is often normalized and enforced in high-control groups. It can even impact your relationships long after you've left a dysfunctional group or relationship. This inventory is intended to help you identify possible patterns of codependency so you can start changing your expectations about how relationships work.

Count the statements below that reflect things you often think or do.

I often prioritize other people’s needs even if I’m neglecting my own.
I feel guilty when I have to say no to other people's requests.
I volunteer my time even when I’m busy with other things.
I show physical affection to others even when I’m uncomfortable.
I give money to others even when I’m struggling financially.
I sometimes resent other people when I'm doing favors for them.
I often pretend I'm not hurt by other people's insensitive actions.
I stay loyal to certain people even when they keep hurting me.
I feel obligated to forgive people even when they keep hurting me.
I often apologize even when I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong.
I will ignore physical discomfort if I’m busy helping someone else.
I try to spare my loved ones from the consequences of their actions.
I often feel responsible for making other people feel happy or calm.
I feel hurt when other people choose to keep things private from me.
I feel hurt when other people don’t anticipate what I need.
I feel guilty when I can’t anticipate what other people need.
I notice my mood shifting to match the people around me.
I often change my mind to match the opinions of people around me.
I feel obligated to be the peacemaker when others are in conflict.
I feel panicked when there’s a disagreement, even if I'm not involved.
I often take care of people who can technically care for themselves.
I usually get anxious when I have to do tasks on my own.
I often worry that I’m upsetting other people without even realizing it.
I need other people to tell me if I’m making the right decision.
I usually don't feel confident until I've gotten reassurance from others.

CODEPENDENCY INVENTORY

I often prioritize other people’s needs even if I’m neglecting my own.

I feel guilty when I have to say no to other people's requests.

I volunteer my time even when I’m busy with other things.

I show physical affection to others even when I’m uncomfortable.

I give money to others even when I’m struggling financially.

I sometimes resent other people when I'm doing favors for them.

I often pretend I'm not hurt by other people's insensitive actions.

I stay loyal to certain people even when they keep hurting me.

I feel obligated to forgive people even when they keep hurting me.

I often apologize even when I don’t think I’ve done anything wrong.

I will ignore physical discomfort if I’m busy helping someone else.

I try to spare my loved ones from the consequences of their actions.

I often feel responsible for making other people feel happy or calm.

I feel hurt when other people choose to keep things private from me.

I feel hurt when other people don’t anticipate what I need.

I feel guilty when I can’t anticipate what other people need.

I notice my mood shifting to match the people around me.

I often change my mind to match the opinions of people around me.

I feel obligated to be the peacemaker when others are in conflict.

I feel panicked when there’s a disagreement, even if I'm not involved.

I often take care of people who can technically care for themselves.

I usually get anxious when I have to do tasks on my own.

I often worry that I’m upsetting other people without even realizing it.

I need other people to tell me if I’m making the right decision.

I usually don't feel confident until I've gotten reassurance from others.